What if we thought of monogamy as a spectrum? "The study revealed two important findings. First, millennials like myself are less interested in monogamy than our elders are. Second, millennials don’t view monogamy as all or nothing. We realize that, like sexuality and gender, relationships can exist on a spectrum. And [...]
Looking for a Third? These Guys Are Down Read an article where I am interviewed about why straight men enjoy three-ways. ...straight men do want to have threesomes and explore their sexual boundaries. But the fact is the experiences, like the apps that enable them, can be glitchy." https://features.wearemel.com/looking-for-a-third-these-guys-are-down-10f1076fcd4#.t3rbsdcah [...]
Misandry: The Invisible Hatred of Men Men face many microaggressions that we rarely think about Misandry I been noticing more and more microaggressions toward men, but I’ve found surprisingly little discussion of this trend. There is a word most people have never heard of: Misandry, meaning hatred of men. It [...]
An Educational Post Concerning the Importance of Understanding the Severity of the Restroom Issues Transgender People Face People are born transgender. It happens while developing in utero. Every fetus starts out as “female” while developing during the 1st trimester of pregnancy. Approximately at the end of the 1st trimester/beginning of [...]
Depathologizing Sexual Eroticism Understanding why men's and women's erotic identities are so different It’s a story I’ve heard many times in my practice. A marriage is going along just fine until the day a wife discovers that her husband has been watching Internet porn, porn that bears little resemblance to [...]
The 4 Stages of Coming Out as a Couple in a Mixed Orientation Marriage In a mixed-orientation marriage, one spouse is straight and the other is gay or bisexual. The Straight Spouse Network (www.ssnetwk.org) cites that there are more than two million mixed orientation couples. Therapists will often [...]
Top 4 Myths about Bisexual Identity Bisexuality is a real sexual identity—it is not just a stage. Sexual interests, sexual behavior, and sexual identity are different and are not always aligned in an individual. Sexual interests, sexual behavior, and sexual identity are different and are not always aligned [...]
Cycles of Sex Addiction Those who suffer from a sex addiction typically experience what is called an addictive cycle, which includes four elements: preoccupation, ritual, sexual behavior, and despair. Cycle of Sex Addiction #1: Preoccupation During the preoccupation stage, a sex addict thinks ahead, making sure that he’ll have enough time [...]
Sex Addiction Counseling: The Top 3 Myths People not familiar with sex addiction often joke about it, probably because it makes them nervous and uncomfortable. Sex Addiction Counseling Myth #1: Sex Addiction is About Sex People not familiar with sex addiction often joke about it, probably because it [...]
Porn Addiction: 6 Helpful Tips for Women on How to Deal with a Partner who Might Have it The biggest referral source for my therapy practice is the computer. Why? Because of Internet infidelity. With one click of the keyboard, women can discover a whole world her partner [...]