Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Returning to the scene of the sexual crime. A boy who has become traumatized from such an event usually becomes quite adept in adulthood at compartmentalization—so much so that he may even “forget” that [...]
Case Study: Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have [...]
Straight Men Have Sex with Men for the Cash This video is about straight men who have sex with men for money. They report it isn't the man or the gay sex that turns them on rather it is the cash that turns them on. They have eroticized [...]
Here's What It Means If You Catch Your Man Watching Gay Porn As a sex and couples’ therapist, I have often seen the seismic reaction that occurs in a relationship when a woman discovers that her man has been looking at or searching for gay porn sites. For the woman [...]
My latest article "Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences" Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and [...]
What is the Difference Between Bisexual Men and Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men? People always ask me what the difference is between a bisexual man and a straight man who has sex with men. Here is my answer!
Straight Acting Guise and Straight Guys: Why The Obsession by Gay Guys? In this video, Dr. Joe talks about the use of the description "straight acting" guys as well as why some gay men are obsessed with straight guys.
The Turtle & the Hail Storm: Speaking of Partnership Dr. Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships. He specializes in Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/“sex addiction”, Relationship Problems & Marital Conflict, Sex Therapy, Sexual Identity Concerns, Depression, Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He has authored 4 books and [...]
Toxic Masculinity I have been noticing more and more microaggressions toward men, but I’ve found surprisingly little discussion of this trend. There is a word most people have never heard of: Misandry, meaning hatred of men. It corresponds to misogyny, hatred of women. By noticing microaggressions directed against [...]
Sexual Desire Discrepancy This video by Dr. Joe is about Sexual Desire Discrepancy where one partner wants sex more than the other. I talk about what to do and how to negotiate successfully through that.