"Smart Sex-Smart Love" discussion series I'm really proud about what we are creating with the, "Smart sex-Smart Love" discussion series at my psychotherapy offices. Last night we had men and women, straight, bisexual and gay, caucasian and people of color. Next month we are talking about pornography and gender differences/similarities [...]
Does Masturbating Make You a Sex Addict? What About Porn? What About Bondage? Even the Experts Can’t Agree. Others include Joe Kort, a sexologist and former sex-addiction therapist who has defected, and who wrote a blog in late 2015 renouncing the sex-addiction model. “I think it is... very harmful to gay and bisexual [...]
Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Returning to the scene of the sexual crime. A boy who has become traumatized from such an event usually becomes quite adept in adulthood at compartmentalization—so much so that he may even “forget” that [...]
Straight Men Have Sex with Men for the Cash This video is about straight men who have sex with men for money. They report it isn't the man or the gay sex that turns them on rather it is the cash that turns them on. They have eroticized [...]
Here's What It Means If You Catch Your Man Watching Gay Porn As a sex and couples’ therapist, I have often seen the seismic reaction that occurs in a relationship when a woman discovers that her man has been looking at or searching for gay porn sites. For the woman [...]
My latest article "Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences" Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and [...]
What is the Difference Between Bisexual Men and Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men? People always ask me what the difference is between a bisexual man and a straight man who has sex with men. Here is my answer!
The Turtle & the Hail Storm: Speaking of Partnership Dr. Kort is a leading expert on sex and relationships. He specializes in Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/“sex addiction”, Relationship Problems & Marital Conflict, Sex Therapy, Sexual Identity Concerns, Depression, Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He has authored 4 books and [...]
Toxic Masculinity I have been noticing more and more microaggressions toward men, but I’ve found surprisingly little discussion of this trend. There is a word most people have never heard of: Misandry, meaning hatred of men. It corresponds to misogyny, hatred of women. By noticing microaggressions directed against [...]
Gay Men and Sex: Tops, Bottoms and Sides This video by Dr. Joe, www.joekort.com, is about Gay Men and Sex: Tops, Bottoms and Sides. Not every gay man wants to have anal sex. Many consider anal sex as sex and everything else as foreplay. Yet for gay men who [...]
