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Infidelity can be traumatic. Recovering a relationship from an instance of cheating may seem like an uphill battle. Often times the natural inclination is to assail the 'cheater' with harsh words and to comfort the 'victim' with compassion. But if the couple truly wishes to heal the pain and mend their relationship then finding common ground is paramount.
What is cheating? This is a complex question, and the answer depends on the type of relationship and the individuals involved. In order to properly define cheating a couple must decide what monogamy means to them.
Just wave the magic wand and the sexual yearnings for your partner will return.
If only it were that easy.
But, the good news is, your desires most likely are not gone forever; they just need a little rediscovery.
When I work with couples who want to rekindle what they used to have in the bedroom, I first determine if any medical issues are at play. When I rule these out, I take a deeper look into their life: I learn about communication patterns and how the couple interact in their every day life. Do they have the emotional ability to talk about what is going on in their life outside the bedroom? I observe how they relate to each other, how they describe their partner, and if they understand each other's needs. Often, I find a disconnect.
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