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The CRSH blog was established to serve as a knowledge source for relationship and sexual health. Through Dr. Kort, this blog explores diverse sex topics ranging from sex addiction to gender identity to relationship building strategies.

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Case Study: Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences
August 01, 2017

Originally published in Psychotherapy Networker Magazine
Case Study
By Joe Kort
July/August 2017

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Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have a fuller command of the language for doing so, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. As a result, couples therapists often spend much of their time trying to get the man to act more like the woman, reclaiming the more feminine parts of himself to deepen his connection with his partner.

In my own work as a couples therapist, I, too, used to side automatically with the woman's values, especially the idea that relational sex—involving deep emotional connection—is what couples should be having all the time. Like many therapists, I saw nonnormative practices that involved acting out fantasies or deviating from mainstream sexual conventions as problematic, and I’d usually join with the partner who didn’t like them. For instance, I once had a client who was turned on by listening outside the bathroom door to his wife pee before they had sex. It was like a form of exciting foreplay for him, but it angered and disgusted his wife. I wound up agreeing with her and viewing his interest in engaging in that behavior as a form of pathology. Looking back, it seems a better approach would’ve been to help the couple understand the differences in the way men and women often express their attachment to each other in sex.

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Straight Men Have Sex with Men For the Cash
July 31, 2017

This video is about straight men who have sex with men for money. They report it isn't the man or the gay sex that turns them on rather it is the cash that turns them on. They have eroticized money. They also do this for money with women however most women do not pay for sex whereas men do.

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Here's What It Means If You Catch Your Man Watching Gay Porn by Dr. Joe Kort
July 18, 2017

As a sex and couples’ therapist, I have often seen the seismic reaction that occurs in a relationship when a woman discovers that her man has been looking at or searching for gay porn sites.

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My latest article "Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences"
July 17, 2017

Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have a fuller command of the language for doing so, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. As a result, couples therapists often spend much of their time trying to get the man to act more like the woman, reclaiming the more feminine parts of himself to deepen his connection with his partner.

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What is the Difference Between Bisexual Men and Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men?
July 16, 2017

People always ask me what the difference is between a bisexual man and a straight man who has sex with men. Here is my answer! 

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