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It’s no secret that opioid abuse is a growing problem in our country. An estimated 2.4 million people in the United States abuse prescription painkillers reports psycom.net. And, according to latest information from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), about 11 percent of Americans aged 12 or older were using illicit drugs in the last month.
“A majority of those surveyed used drugs recreationally or for non-medical reasons,” reports the National Drug Helpline. “But many others used them because they were dependent on the substance or were struggling with addiction.”
Holding down a full-time job, and being a wife and mother can be overwhelming and highly desexualizing. When women come into my office and tell me they lost their sex drive, it doesn't take long to find the reason why. After working all day, only to come home to their second job of caring for their family, they find it nearly impossible to shift to romantic mode when the evening winds down. Their mind is racing 100 miles an hour with a "to do" list of the next day, and on top of that, they no longer feel desirable.
Two issues are here: a noisy mind and low self-image.
If a woman is upset or tired, if she is feeling overworked and under appreciated, she is not going to perform in bed. In order to get in bed, you have to get out of your head.
In the many years I have worked as a therapist, the three most common reasons for relationship conflicts are: 1. infidelity, 2. finances, and 3. kids
1. Infidelity - Finding out your partner has been unfaithful can throw your relationship into crisis mode and possibly even destroy it. Today, with social media, partners can have a relationship that is not physical, but is still considered cheating. Sexting and suggestive conversations are two ways of cheating that are easy and very tempting. When the trust in a relationship is lost, it is hard to regain it.
In working with couples on improving their relationship, I often find a lot of power dynamics going on - one person is in control and the other is submissive. It is critical to the success of the relationship that equalization occur. The power struggle must disappear. Couples must focus on overcoming their obstacles, not trying to win. They must find a way to let go, to forgive and move forward so they can build the relationship they want.
It is estimated that 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18. Typically, this occurs within a long-term, on-going relationship, that escalates over time, usually lasting about 4 years. As adults, these men may experience severe depression and other symptoms associated with post-traumatic stress (PTSD), and have self-destructive behaviors, including out-of-control behaviors with sex or alcohol and other drug use. Often, these men choose not to seek help.
@drjoekort TBT circa 1992. My former supervisor from my psychology internship happens to live behind me and saved the video ta… https://t.co/UeRiJD6Sw6
@drjoekort TBT circa 1992. My former supervisor from my psychology internship happens to live behind me and saved the video ta… https://t.co/fqaKklr91i