The CRSH blog was established to serve as a knowledge source for relationship and sexual health. Through Dr. Kort, this blog explores diverse sex topics ranging from sex addiction to gender identity to relationship building strategies.
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Just wave the magic wand and the sexual yearnings for your partner will return.
If only it were that easy.
But, the good news is, your desires most likely are not gone forever; they just need a little rediscovery.
When I work with couples who want to rekindle what they used to have in the bedroom, I first determine if any medical issues are at play. When I rule these out, I take a deeper look into their life: I learn about communication patterns and how the couple interact in their every day life. Do they have the emotional ability to talk about what is going on in their life outside the bedroom? I observe how they relate to each other, how they describe their partner, and if they understand each other's needs. Often, I find a disconnect.
I am often asked why it is so important to use other words like queer, pansexual or non-binary and not “stick with the basics” like gay or lesbian.
My response is "because words matter!"
Just like our struggle to achieve marriage equality, the word “marriage” matters as it implies and defines the institution of marriage; not separate but equal like “union.” Therefore, I patiently explain that words like queer, non-binary and gender-queer also matter. When I am introducing myself at a professional presentation, I say I am a “white, spiritual, cis-gender, gay male." These words (or some would call labels) matter as they define further who I am as a person. To be inclusive is to be accepting and affirming of everything about someone as a person.
Co-dependency can destroy your happiness, career, health and personal relationships. It is a type of dysfunctional helping relationship in which one person supports or enables another person's serious addiction or mental health issues. It is as toxic as any drug or alcohol dependency.
We’ve all had a “moment”. Gotten angry, hurt, or scared. Slammed a door, honked a horn, raised our voice. But if you are part of the 1.6% of the U.S. population (or 4 million people) diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) these instances can be much more than a passing “moment".
There might not be a more difficult path in life than that of a transgender person. Often ostracized in mainstream society, many endure a lifetime of abuse (mental, physical, and sexual), not because the gender they have been assigned at birth does not match who they are, but because our society lacks understanding and education about gender and gender identity.
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