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For the fourth consecutive year, the National WRAP campaign kicked off on the last Sunday in October, and supporters loudly began expressing their anti-pornography cries with the symbolic white ribbon (for decency) and plenty of unfounded evidence.
WRAP (White Ribbon Against Pornography) claims pornography is dangerous and addictive; it leads to violence, sexual abuse and exploitation; and it damages relationships and healthy sexual development in young people. I've even read this: "Pornography is a plague of the worst kind, silently destroying families from the inside out, ensnaring good men and women, and brutally enslaving teens and children in more than one way."
We live in a world that is deeply confused and conflicted about all matters sexual. If we talk about it at all it is often in whispers, “dirty” talk, or from a negative perspective such as sexual abuse, sexual trauma, or negative and incorrect messages we heard during our formative years.
Even therapists are uncomfortable talking with their clients about sexuality. Unfortunately, most therapists are nottrained in working with the amazing range of sexual expression that exists within each person, nor for approaching the subject in a sex-positive way – that is, as healthy sexuality, not pathological behavior.
Here are the alarming facts about suicide:
- In 2016, approximately 9.8 million people considered taking their own life.
- On an average, one person dies by suicide every 12 minutes in the US.
- We lose more than 800,000 people to suicide each year.
- In 2017, there were twice as many suicides than homicides in the US.
- Suicide is the 10th major cause of death worldwide.
- It is the leading cause of death in men under the age of 50.
- It was the second leading cause of death for people aged 10 to 34 in the US in 2017.
- Lesbian, gay, bisexual and questioning youth are almost five times more likely to attempt suicide.
- Approximately 40 percent of transgender adults reported having made a suicide attempt.
- Nearly 10.5 percent of people age 18 to 25 in the US had serious suicidal thoughts in 2017.
- For every suicide, there are 25 attempts.
- Depression, a major contributing factor to suicide, affects 20 percent to 25 percent of Americans over the age of 18.
- Only half of all Americans experiencing an episode of major depression receive treatment.
- Approximately 80 percent to 90 percent of people who seek treatment for depression are treated successfully using therapy or medication.
Conflict is inevitable amongst families. Any sort of conflict, lack of communications, fighting, or mismatching personality styles, can deteriorate family relationships. The lack of communication skills to talk through conflict damages intimacy, bonds and trust between you, and not being able to have open conversations with each other, can harm family life. Not talking effectively to each other can often lead to resentment or stonewalling. The way families chose to resolve and handle conflict makes a huge difference to family life.
During a recent podcast, I interviewed David Singer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a poly- and kink-aware professional who practices in Los Angeles, California. He specializes in working with people practicing or exploring consensual non-monogamy, those involved in kink and power-exchange relationships, and professional sex workers.
Singer has a master’s degree in clinical psychology with an emphasis on marriage and family therapy. He also has more than a decade of experience working with police and fire departments to help survivors of trauma.
Our interview focused on consensual non-monogamy, as well as the kink lifestyle, and what all of this means.